I gotta say, this whole dating shit is pretty intimidating, and I feel very out of the loop. While I use Skype regularly for work and talking with out of town family members, I wasn't expecting it to also be a part of the dating scene.
I'm not ready for someone I've never met to see possibly what is inside of my house. I have my computer set up in my studio. One of my cats loves to sit on the back of my chair. You can see my paintings and family pictures on the walls... and probably my bike and kayak paddle in the hallway, depending on how much energy I had to put things away. That's a lot of semi-private info I don't know if I want them having. They also have the opportunity to get a good look at me before the "first date". Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I'd rather email and text and get to know the person before I judge them on their looks.
What worries me most is rejection. Yeah, I know we've all been there. But I'm short and pudgy. While I've lost almost 25 pounds in the last few months due to some serious ass-kicking by a hired trainer and a noticeable lack of beer in my life, they don't know that. And probably don't care. I still have at least 30 pounds to go. I'm a nerd, and could use a good wardrobe makeover. I like the SyFy Channel, really dig Wil Wheaton's new show, and would kill for an Arc Reactor t-shirt and Motley Crue tickets come November.
Most guys that I've met online in the past are pretty superficial, and I'm really afraid that I won't get a chance, because I'm not a size 3, or 7... or 10. At the same time, I know I sometimes put up walls to prevent them from getting too close. I bike and kayak with several nice, single guys, but prefer to spend the time cracking jokes and avoiding personal topics. Humor - it is my dragon protected moat to thwart the potential white knight.
So my current question. I know that not everyone is superficial, there are some genuinely nice people out there. Is it worth the risk, or should I continue to let my dragon act as bouncer?
love,
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